Love Alone Doesn’t Answer Every Question
Love Does Care: What Every Sickle Cell Carrier Couple Should Know Before Starting a Family
Love Does Care is more than a book — it’s a movement to break the cycle of sickle cell disease.
If you and your partner are sickle cell carriers, love alone isn’t enough to guide the decisions ahead. Love Does Care is a compassionate, practical guide for couples navigating genotype compatibility, family planning, and the realities no one prepares you for.
Coming Soon
About The Book
Love Does Care was written for couples who want to make informed, intentional decisions about love and family — without fear-based messaging or one-size-fits-all answers.
Drawing from lived experience, community conversations, expert insights, and real stories, this book helps you understand your options and face hard questions with clarity and compassion.
It does not tell you what to choose, but it gives you the tools to choose responsibly.
- Abisola Shof
Why It Matters
300,000+ babies estimated to born with SCD annually
1 in 13 Black or African American babies in the U.S. carry the sickle cell trait
1 in 4 Nigerians carry the sickle cell trait
Yet conversations around genotype compatibility often come too late, if they happen at all.
This book encourages early conversations and offers a framework for exploring the options available to couples.
Inside This Book, You’ll Learn:
What it means to be genetically incompatible and why timing matters
The cultural, medical, faith-based, and financial dimensions of family-planning decisions
Prevention strategies and evolving treatments for sickle cell disease
Conversations with sickle cell warriors and caregivers
Guided questions to help couples discern whether to move forward together or walk away with clarity and peace
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Early access to the book
Behind-the-scenes reflections as the launch approaches
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About The Author
I wrote Love Does Care from lived experience.
Like many couples, my husband and I were forced to confront difficult questions about genotype compatibility long before we had clear answers. What we found instead was silence, fragmented information, and conversations that came too late.
Through years of research, community dialogue, and advocacy, I’ve worked to make genotype awareness and informed decision-making more accessible, especially for couples navigating these realities quietly.
Love Does Care is my attempt to offer what I wish had existed earlier: a compassionate guide that respects love, honors choice, and centers responsibility without fear or judgment.